Most
young people complain that parents don’t really have time to talk to them. We seem to be so busy to spare that
intentional time and talk to our young ones. They seem to be communicating with their
gadgets more than they do with their parents.
Talk
to the people you trust about the issues you are going through and allow them
to help you. You can’t say that they
don’t understand you when in the first place you have not tried to talk to
them.
Basic Rules
Let
us learn to keep all our gadgets aside when we are engaging in a face to face
conversation. It is not good that when we are talking, you are constantly on
your phone, ipad, laptop etc. Show some
respect and keep all your gadgets away and give that time to the person you are
talking to then after you are done then you can go and continue using your
phone.
When
talking to people it is advisable to talk with respect, it is a two way thing
you earn it through your expression.
Basic Things for
Effective Communication
Ø Avoid interrupting
Am sure you wouldn’t like someone
interrupting you every time you try talking to them. Therefore out of respect, when someone is
talking to you; listen carefully and avoid interrupting or trying to redirect
the conversation to your concerns.
It could be possible that you may
not like their ideas, value or opinion but it is important that you set aside
your judgment and withhold blame and criticism in order to fully understand the
person.
Be a good listener, when
listening you make the other person feel heard and understood, which can help
build a stronger, deeper connection between you.
Ø Show interest to what is being said
When
you show interest as someone is talking to you, it makes them trust you and
they will always feel free approaching you when they want to talk to
someone. Ask questions for clarification
on what you don’t understand.
Ø Keep stress in check
When
stressed it is possible to misread other people, send confusing or off putting
non-verbal signals. It is only when in a
calm state that you will be able to know whether the situation requires a
response, or whether the other person’s signals indicate it would be better to
remain silent.
It is normal to express your
anger but always do it with respect.
Only complain when absolutely necessary.
If something upsets you; wait for a few hours and calm down before
taking action
Ø Deliver your words clearly
In
many cases how you say something can be as important as what you say.
Avoid
jargon and over complicated language, explain things as simply as possible
Ø Beware of your Non-Verbal Signals
What you say to others with your
eyes or body language is just as powerful as that you say with words. Non verbal communication expresses your
emotional state, attitude towards the speaker or listener, knowledge of the
topic and also honesty.
Maintain an even tone and make
eye contact, keep your body language relaxed and open. Regulate your feelings and behave
appropriately
Ø Be assertive
This means; expressing your
thoughts, feelings and needs in an open and honest way while standing up for
yourself and respecting others. It
doesn’t mean you be hostile, aggressive or demanding.
Understand the other person, it
is not about winning an argument or forcing your opinions on others.
How to Improve Assertiveness
o
Value
yourself and your opinions, they are important too’
o
Know
your needs and wants – learn to express them without infringing on the rights
of others
o
Express
negative thoughts in a positive way. It
is ok to be angry but you must be respectful as well
o
Receive
feedback positively – accept compliments, learn from your mistakes and ask for
help when needed.
o
Learn
to say “NO”, know your limits and don’t let others take advantage of you
Ø Beware of other peoples emotions
Congratulate positive
landmarks. Consider the emotional effect
of what you are saying and communicate within the norms of acceptable
behavior.
Ø Empathy
Try and see things in other
people’s side of view. Try not to be judgmental
or biased by preconceived ideas or beliefs. Stays in tune with your own emotions to help
enable you understand the emotion of others.
Ø Treat people equally
Avoid patronizing people and do
not talk about others behind their backs as this will help you build trust and
respect.
Ø Attempt to resolve conflicts as they arise
It is very poisonous to be
keeping things under the carpet all the time because it will reach a time that
they will start stinking and it might be late to reverse. When you resolve issues as they arise it
leaves you with a clear conscious and will avoid grudge and vengeance.
Ø Maintain a positive attitude and honest smile
Not many people would want to be
around a person who is miserable all the time.
Be sensitive to other people's feelings, be friendly to other people and be true to yourself.
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