Jean grew up knowing that you are supposed to know
right from wrong and to her if you made a mistake it was just intentional. You
are not supposed to forget, because the way she was brought up is that if you
are told to do something and you forget then you are in for trouble. As a young girl she believed that is how
everyone was supposed to be.
When she left her village to go to town, she got to
interact with different people from different origins and at first she never
understood so many things; like for example forgetting, “as in really, how can
you forget”? Said Jean. To her,
forgiving was the last thing in her mind because mistakes are intentional,
therefore someone wrongs you just to provoke you. To her that was the best way to do things and
she never saw anything wrong with that.
As she was making new friends in the city, there was
one particular friend that made her see things in a different perspective. Collins had a flexible mind, not judgmental
and very forgiving. Jean still with the
same character, whenever Collins wronged her she would be very mad at him and
cause so much trouble, but when it was the other way round Collins would
forgive her and always understand. At first Jean thought that Collins was
pretending and most probably would revenge at some point but it never came to
pass.
There is one thing that Collins told Jean and this was
her turning point, it always stuck in her mind and whenever she wanted to
engage in her old habits this would serve as a reminder. Collins
told Jean that, “people are brought up differently and therefore don’t expect
people to be like you”. It made her step
back and think twice, and that is when she came to realize that people are
different and we should always try to accommodate them as they are doing to
us.
Moral Lesson
Ø Don’t try to change someone to be like you, just be a
good example to them and definitely they will like your character and admire
the traits in you and change on their own.
Ø Life is so simple; don’t try so much to complicate it.
Live it the simple way and enjoy the simple things
Ø Know that we are brought up differently and each one
of us is different in their own way, so learn to accommodate each other. Remember there are habits in you that other
people cant stand but they choose to bear with you.
Ø Each one of us has both the bad and good traits,
therefore concentrate on the good traits in a person and by doing so you will
be able to relate well with others.
Ø Avoid the blame game and don’t run away from your
responsibility.
Ø Always have a plan “B” in case things don’t turn out
the way you expected them to as this will spare you from becoming so bitter.
Ø Don’t be too judgmental, listen to people’s side of
the story and try to be sensitive.
Ø Don’t over generalize issues, people are different and
stereotyping issues will make you not to move forward.
Ø Forgive and let go of the baggage you are carrying.
Jean and Collins story was such an inspiration to me
and it really touched me. I decided to
share this because I know it will change someone.
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