Be careful what you say to others;
let it be words to build them and not to destroy them. We tend to overlook the
small things in life not knowing that they contribute a lot to our success or failure
in life.
Even the words we say so carelessly
without thinking impact our lives and others too. A weak message repeated two
or three times becomes strong and stronger, eventually it is believed and
starts impacting lives either positively or negatively. Words have the power to
build or tear down; they provide the courage to press on or one more reason to
give up.
The right words at the wrong time
may be just as damaging as the wrong words. Whether you apologize afterwards
the damage has already been done. At
times it might be best not to say anything at all while other times words also
left unsaid can be hurtful.
It is most likely that words (negative
or positive) said to you over and over will start making sense and you will
eventually believe them and thereafter you will start repeating them to
yourself time after time.
Impact of Negative Words
Just a negative comment in the morning can ruin
somebody’s whole day and it is good to know that negative words affect even
people beyond who was hurled at. Sharp
criticism, cruel taunts and mocking are so harmful, they replay themselves for
decades and decades in someone’s mind.
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Lose of self worth
Once
told and may be repeated to you, you will eventually believe that you are not
worthy and start repeating the words to yourself; like, “am ugly”, “am a
failure”, “am stupid”……….
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Lack of trust to oneself and toward others
Since
you have believed the words and repeated them to yourself then you definitely can’t
trust yourself.
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Engage in bad behaviors
You
will find yourself engaging in bad behaviors either as a way of looking for
confidence or just intentionally hurting others to satisfy your ego. The bad
behaviors could be promiscuity, drugs, crime and many others.
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Lowers self esteem
Constant
negative words will lower your self esteem; you won’t have confidence in
yourself at all.
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May cause depression
As one
repeat the negative words said to them, it is a way of knowing that they are
developing negative mindset and this may result into depression if nothing is
done to change it.
How to Control Negative words
Just a negative comment in the morning can ruin
somebody’s whole day and it is good to know that negative words affect even
people beyond who was hurled at. Sharp
criticism, cruel taunts and mocking are so harmful, they replay themselves for
decades and decades in someone’s mind.
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Pay attention to your thoughts
Try
faking it until you make it; with practice you will eventually make it. Cancel
the negative thoughts from your mind with positive ones.
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Start with your own words
Examine
the words you are using; are they hurting others or not. If they are then start
with; no name calling or self criticism
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Stop all self deprecation
Everything
you have achieved in life is important as well as your body too therefore you
should never make this be the butt of a joke.
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Resist gossiping or speaking ill of others
Your
words resonate in your body; find something good to say about others every
human being has a positive and negative side therefore, look for the positive
rather than the negatives.
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Limit the time you spend with negative
people
If you
spend most of your time with people who all they do is criticize and talk ill
of others then you will start developing that habit too. Stay around people who
build you and lift up your spirits. Concentrate on your life and leave other
people’s issues to themselves.
If we stay conscious of the energy in us based on the
emotions we feel we can make deliberate choices that alter our frequency and
create the realities we desire. With a renewed perspective and more positive
energy we will bring good into our lives rather than repeating cycles of
bitterness.
Positive words boost self esteem and give courage to
press on therefore let your words be words of building others and not
destroying them.
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