I know it is hard to stop negative thoughts if you
have been having them for quite sometime; but it’s the only way, especially if
you want to avoid going down a path that is painful and unnecessary. By taking
small and consistent steps you will gradually become a happier person.
Ø Try
and identify what causes your negativity
I gave
out some of the causes of negative mindset;http://www.theyoungperson.blogspot.com/2015/04/causes-of-negative-mindset.html.
Sometimes causes are internal rather than external, it might be that it
is your family that makes you negative but when you dig deeper you realize that
you feel unworthy as a person and you project this unworthiness onto your
family and that makes you angry to them.
Ø Stop
thinking in Extremes
I know
this sounds funny but it is true; for example relative is missing and the first
place you go looking for him/her is the mortuary rather than any other
place. Negative thinking tends to view
bad things in extreme. It makes us see
the future in terms of dramatic disasters, failures, and catastrophes.
Ø Understand
the outcome of Negativity
By now
from my earlier articles; I believe you know the consequences of negative
mindset http://www.theyoungperson.blogspot.com/2015/04/consequences-of-negative-mindset.html. The impact of negative mindset
is not something to take so lightly.
Therefore by understanding all that you will think twice before getting
upset, angry or depressed.
Ø In
case of a Negative Situation or Thing; Try to look at its the positive side
For
example you may be attacked by robbers they get away with some of your
belongings without harming you, instead of complaining and stressing yourself;
just thank God because nothing happened to you.
As long as you are well, you can still acquire what you lost.
Ø Stop
Mind-reading
Thinking
negatively stops us relaxing. For example you might send a message to someone
and if she delays to reply you start telling yourself, “I know it is because
she thinks am bothering her, or is it because she doesn’t like me”.
Having
to assign a meaning to something before you have real evidence makes you more
likely to believe what you imagine without question. Holding off assigning
(made up) meaning to an ambiguous situation is a key part of overcoming
negative thinking.
Avoid
mind-reading and at least consider all possible reasons and not the negative
ones.
Ø Don’t
over-generalize the negative
At
times someone may turn you down and all you start thinking is “nothing ever
works out for me” or if you fail a test you start over-generalizing things by
telling yourself that you are “stupid”.
Ø Don’t
minimize the Positive
Negative
thinking stops you from seeing the positive when it does happen. It's as if there's a screen filtering out
positives and just letting in stuff that confirms the 'negative bias'.
Magnifying setbacks and minimizing successes makes you be demoralized and with misery.
Ø Get into the habit of seeing setbacks as temporary and
specific rather than as permanent and pervasive. We all tend to find what we
look for. If you find yourself thinking
negative thoughts about a person, try and balance it out with one positive thought
about them. Look for good qualities in people, there is no single person who
doesn’t have a good quality however small, so focus on that good quality and don’t
concentrate on the bad side alone.
Ø Stop
Making up things and believing them
Sometimes
we need to suspend the functioning of the imagination. I can’t deny, imagination is a wonderful
thing, but not if you use it to scare yourself. Looking at an upcoming event in your mind and
negatively hypnotizing yourself by vividly imagining the worst is like using a
hammer to paint a picture.
Ø Do
not develop a Habit of taking all the responsibility
You
make yourself believe that even when someone succeeds it is because of you,
just because you helped them a little bit.
If someone does something good, just accept it; you are not supposed to
be at the center of everything.
As
much as they give credit to themselves they also blame themselves for all kinds
of negatives that have little or nothing at all to do with them.
Ø Stop
forcing your own Rules on Life
These
are the kind of people who want everything to go their way; they don’t care
much whether you can be inconvenienced in one way or another. For example what goes through your mind when
someone close to you does something you didn’t like? Would you perhaps say “if
she/he loved me, he wouldn’t do that” or if he is late then he must be seeing
someone else. My medical reports have delayed; this only means that it is bad
news.
Try
and be flexible, we are all human and we make mistakes at one given point. So
don’t be too hard on others and in the process hurting yourself.
If you still have wildly negative thoughts, then at
least 'dilute' them by imagining a positive outcome as well as the negative
one.
http://www.theyoungperson.blogspot.com/2015/04/mindset.html
http://www.theyoungperson.blogspot.com/2015/04/causes-of-negative-mindset.html
http://www.theyoungperson.blogspot.com/2015/04/consequences-of-negative-mindset.html
http://www.theyoungperson.blogspot.com/2015/04/it-drains-you-inside-without-you.html
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