YOU CANNOT PLEASE EVERYONE

Live at peace with everyone; do not try to please everybody as there are some people you can’t please no matter what you try or how nice you are to them.  Just be yourself and by doing that you will attract those who like the character in you. 

What trying to please others does to you

Ø  Trying is frivolous and will only cause more stress for you. Not only is it unhealthy to worry about what other people think, it’s also stressful to try to live up to their standards.

Ø  Trying to please others leaves you so frustrated and unsatisfied; this is so because there are people who can never see any good in you and no matter how many times you put more effort to please them it just doesn’t work, therefore you get more and more frustrated.  

Ø  It denies you the peace and tranquility that you desire.  In the pursuit of looking for happiness by trying to please others we are never at peace with ourselves because we end up doing things that we even don’t like while in the end no one cares about you.

Ø  Your life will lag behind; the time you spend trying to please others could be used in doing your own things to enable you grow and move with time.  You concentrate so much on pleasing others and forget that you have a life to live; by the time you realize that you were not living your life it might be a bit late.

How to Deal with the Habit of Trying to please others

Ø  The only person any of us should be actively, consciously trying to please is ourselves. After all, we’re the ones who have to live in our own skin. It’s much easier to do that if we’re happy with ourselves and our work and the things we’ve done with our lives.

Ø  Give that person to God and focus on pleasing Him (God).

Ø  Take it easy on yourself and complete things in stride. 

Ø  If something is beyond your capabilities, sometimes you have to stop trying and that is OK;  It doesn’t make you a bad person. It just makes you aware of what you can and can’t do.

Ø  It is advisable to realize that there are some people in this world who will never be happy with what you have to offer and trying to please them is like Sisyphus trying to push the stone up the hill. Essentially it’s an exercise in futility.

Ø  It is good to ask ourselves, though, is all this effort worth it? If it’s not, it may be time to move on.

While trying to please others; you may find yourself buying things you don’t need with money you don’t even have just to impress people we don’t even like, all because we think we must be liked by everyone in order to be happy.  Jesus said, "I only seek to please Him who sent me."  (John 5:30 ).